Communicating With Wild Birds - Part 4
Responding To Build Trust
by Gitie House
Your wild birds
already think of you as a wonderful person. They've been
observing you for ages, everytime you freshen their water, refill their
seed trays, or play with your pets, and know that you are kind and caring. Once you make
friends with a wild bird, you'll find that they treat you with
intelligence and care. You become part of their extended community and
they begin to let you into their amazingly rich and intricate social
life.
Talking to the birds, observing their individual
personalities and quirks, understanding their feelings, helps us form a basis for developing that special personal connection. Having a
personal connection with individual wild birds and their families gives
them the opportunity to show you their unique natures and their incredible capacity to do something for you. Even
birds traditionally known for aggressively protecting their young
like magpies and plovers, start treating you as friends and will trust you near their
fledglings.
How
can we get them to not react with fright and attack
us in return when we are trying to help them or we inadvertantly do
something that appears scary to them? The key to gaining their
trust lies in developing that personal connection. The more they
know that they matter to us, the more likely they are to listen to us,
show us their concerns and overcome their instincts to trust us. Below
are some of the ways in which one can show them that they matter to us.
They Know They Matter To You - When You......
- Call them by their name and ask after their friends by name. When they aren't around you ask their friends to fetch them. Parent birds especially like you asking about their children.
- Arrange
another safe place for them to get a drink or feed
because you notice that changes in the environment or territorial
boundaries prevented them from using the existing facilities.
- Scold the pushier birds who may be edging them out trying
to grab all the opportunities for themselves. Size is not always an
indication of aggression. Some of the smaller species can be very
cheeky and successfully chase the bigger, shier birds away.
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Check that they are okay, particularly after a storm or stint of bad
weather. Birds have a very strong sense of making sure that their
flock are all safe and accounted for each day. They check to see if all
their family and friends are settled safely for the night and call
out to those who may be still about until they return or darkness
falls. So they really appreciate your concern as it shows
them that you think of them as part of your family.
- Take pictures while talking to them. Once they get used to seeing you put this big box next to your eye and hearing
the camera click they will stay while the camera is aimed at
them. In fact they feel hurt if the camera is aimed only at
the others and they miss out on being the centre of attention.
- Visit their
nests and call out to them from a safe distance. Most Mum and dad
birds love welcoming friends to see their hatchlings, provided you
follow the rules to ensure that the birds do not perceive you as a
threat. Firstly you must not be intrusive ever. Make
visits to the nesting tree and talk to the birds from a fair distance
before the breeding season begins to show them your interest in their lives.
Feed the birds to show them you care. When the eggs hatch,
help the parents feed the bubs by giving them food especially in harsh
conditions. Give the food at some distance from the nest tree, so
that when scavengers come to pick the leftovers they are not crowding
the bubs in the nest. Keep up your communication with the birds by
talking to them while they eat, and when the chicks
fledge the parents will bring them to visit you.
- Scold
them if they are naughty. Birds have a code of conduct and follow
rules within their own communities. Surprisingly, even the shy
and flitty birds who flutter off at the slightest movement will stay
and listen to you when you're pointing out the rules you want them to
follow. Talk
to them and their family and explain to them what it is you want them
to do, as often as you can. Birds are much more intelligent than most people would
believe, but their method of communication is different. Some
times it can take them a while to figure out what it is you want, but they
will try with amazing results.
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Make them feel safe and comfortable when they are worried.
Predators in the surrounds, lack of food and water, sick
children, missing friends, death in the neighbourhood affect birds as
much as human. They need reassurance, comforting and consoling.
Acknowledging their needs makes them feel loved and understood.
- Do not
react with fright to them. Sometimes a bird will get frightened
by your movement or something you're wearing or doing. For
example, the colour and patterns on your clothes, while of no concern
most of the time, can cause some birds to react. Birds eyes and brains are finely tuned to see colours and patterns differently
from humans. This enables them to recognise each other
individually quickly and at great distances. Even crows, for
instance, who seem just odd shades of black to our eyes, have unique
shades of dark browns, dark purples and many other hues forming very
distnctive patterns to the eye of a bird. Birds also use their
wings and tails to form shapes that convey certain messages. If the
clothes you're wearing indavertently carries a threatening pattern the
bird may react with fear even though they know you. In such situations
it is best to talk softly and gently to reassure them that you're still
their friend, while moving away from them. Do not force your
company on them if you find that its upsetting them for any reason,
even though you may not recognise the reason. Instead try again
later. The birds will gradually learn that you are 'safe'
regardless, or else you will be able to identify the item or action
that's causing them concern and make the necessary changes.
Friendships with our avian friends, like all good relationships, has to be nurtured. Developing and keeping trust is
an evolving process. Each species has its own characteristics and
each bird is unique. The more you talk to your new feathered friends,
the more you will learn about them and they will open their hearts and
take you on a fascinating journey of discovery filled with love and joy.
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In the next part, we will look at 'Making Time For New Friends',
in more detail, as with all relationships it's quality not quantity that makes the difference.
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You can send your questions on any of these steps to editor@wingedhearts.org and I will do my best to answer them.
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